Easiest way to test betrayal with someone is to share a vulnerability. If you fabricate this vulnerability, you have less to lose. If it escapes the person you’ve shared it to, they cannot be trusted. If it doesn’t, then they MAY be worthy of your trust.
@UnmodernM Fabricating a vulnerability to test someone’s loyalty is weak and perilous. Deceit and lies invite reciprocation of further deceit. Why not start with sharing a low risk vulnerability instead? Set the standard and expectation of honesty and forthrightness.
@_miasierra low risk vulnerability is too costly you’ll find in most cases.
@UnmodernM The cost of lying is far greater. People are intuitive and they will sense deceit and put their guard up around you. Or worse, they’ll catch you in a flat out lie. Testing loyalty by lying destroys loyalty.
@_miasierra Good point, I personally think it depends on the stakes. When there’s a lot to be held accountable for, opt for a first round drill. If they pass, not only will they feel they’ve earned your trust, they’ll do more to protect that covenant now that it’s authentic.
