Women can pursue a career starting in their early 20's, work really hard, then fail at attaining a high career job, and still take that failure as a blessing. Because they can at least settle back & embrace their biological nature as mothers/wives. Men dont have this option.
If you're a woman and you're devastated for not getting into the career you wanted, that's a BLESSING. It's a curse for a woman to want a high end career. This is NOT something to want as a woman.
You didn't waste your 20's either. You did what was the best alternative; setting yourself up as much as you possibly could. But failing to attain your career is an opportunity to embrace the path you were born for.
If there are no good guys within your immediate surrounding, you wont find any at the clubs or the bar. And looking for men is not the task of a woman either. Maybe @ThinkInPeach can shed some light on this, but my advice is, go back to what you were pursuing.
There's only two ways you should AIM to make this end for you; Either the right guy finds you and you settle. Or if there are none, continue on your career path to at least become independent, WHILE hoping you get found by the right guy. Parents wont be around forever.
And it's also the case that all the "right" guys are working hard. You won't find them in social settings. Not the high achievers anyway. They are probably doing 60-70 hour work weeks, spending time with family, working on a side project.
It's also those same guys that would find women like you *seeking independence through work* more attractive, than women who do nothing in their 20's but party and go out with friends.
Don't let any guy tell you otherwise. Women who are educated & work are far more attractive than women who pile on make up all day, do nothing but go out.
Failing to attain a high end career for a woman in her late 20's is a blessing. Failing to attain a high end career for a man in his late 20's is (reversibly) devastating. Men have one option = attain enough power to comfortably provide for family Women have 2.
The difference is, women are on a time restriction. Women must make the decision to switch paths when the opportunity arises (a decent guy becoming interested). They should also look for this opportunity as early as 20. There's less decent men out there. Start early.
If you're a father, this is the best advice you can give to your daughter. There's nothing else she should be doing in her 20's aside from furthering her education/career pursuits. That path should only end, when a man is capable enough to take the burden.
