A man of value forces others to earn his loyalty & commitment. He doesn't just give it by default. Valueless men offer it upfront and in perpetuity. Big difference.
Men who provide no value are blindly loyal. They'll do anything for a woman. They'll work forever for their employer. Without question, unconditionally. This is not loyalty. It's the fear of losing a person that finds you valuable, when in reality, they're just using you.
Men of value have no obligation to loyalty. If a woman does not support him, he'll leave. If an employer doesn't reward and enable upward mobility, he will quit. He owes no one anything. Because he provides the value, not them.
Loyalty is like respect. It has to be earned. You don't just hand it over. The fundamental reason why weak men show strong loyalty is because it fills their insecurity of not being wanted. Competent men KNOW they are wanted. They reciprocate selectively.
If you're a woman, a good metric that determines whether you are partner material, is to see whether you can earn the loyalty of a man with plenty of options. Men with plenty of options worked very hard to occupy such positions. This excludes the trust fund boys.
The question becomes; what can you offer a man with value, to earn his loyalty in a undivided manner? It's not going to be sex. It's not going to be looks. You'll have to offer something far more valuable, deeply intertwined with his purpose to earn his loyalty.
If you're an employer; your best workers will be the most ambitious and will want upward mobility with stacks of rewards and bonuses. If you fail to meet this requirement, you will fail to earn their loyalty. They WILL leave. They KNOW they can find a job elsewhere.
Disclaimer; there are many men who think they are valuable and as a consequence, feel that they don't need to be loyal. These men are poisonous. They are narcissists who haven't achieved anything to prove their exemption from loyalty. They've likely inherited their position.
You have to instinctively understand, when you have earned the right to not be blindly loyal, it doesn't mean you have also earned the right to ABUSE that privilege. You have an obligation to give your loyalty to those who strive hard to earn it. Narcissists don't get this.
The point of this thread is; loyalty is NOT a virtue. It's not a good quality. It only becomes a good quality when YOU are worth something. It's a tool used to transfer your value to people who have value. It's not a quality to be used to silence your worthlessness.
This wasn't exhaustive. But you get the idea.
